Updated: Apr 9, 2021
When will I know it's really over? A question that we ask ourselves when the relationship just doesn't feel right. Are you at the point of feeling uncertain, unappreciated and find yourself just going through the motions? Do you feel as if you're putting your all into a relationship and receiving nothing but frustration in return? Have you tried to communicate your feelings with your partner and in the end nothing changes? If you answered yes to any of these situations then it may be time to re-evaluate your life at this point.
With all that has gone on in the world this past year, if it has taught all of us anything it's realizing that life is short and your time here is limited. People are quick to think, there's always tomorrow. Well tomorrow isn't guaranteed, so don't you think it's time to stop making life harder than it has to be? Relationships will always be give and take. If you feel as if you are doing all of the giving with no reciprication in return then you are not in a mutually respectful relationship, period.
Let's face it, most of us were not taught how to be a good partner. So in any relationship, it's normal to have to work at coexisting with another human being. What is not normal is to continue to give all of yourself and to not have the same respect in return. Mutual respect will always be the foundation of a healthy, long lasting relationship. Without respect you have nothing. So back to the original question that I've been ask many times before. How do you really know it's over? Well the short answer is; if you are at the point of questioning whether you should stay in a relationship, then it's likely to the point where it may be time to start making some changes. Is this where you want to be at this point in your life? If the person you are with is not in line with what your own goals, then you're really just co-existing. It may be time for both of you to assess the reasons for continuing your relationship. Life is short and your time here is very limited. Don't waste a single day and end up with a life filled with regret.
We all need to remember that our lives are what we make of it. If you're not happy with the way things are progressing then it's time for change. Most people hesitate to change because of fear. Fear of failure, fear of the unknown and the constant wonder of are you making the right decision. You have to remember that in order to progress in life you have to step out of your comfort zone every now and then. Comfortable and content are not always a good thing. Growth is uncomfortable but it's worth it in the end.
Growth will always come from uncertainty added with follow through. If you find yourself trying to communicate with your partner and you get that "stuck" feeling in the end. If nothing changes then that's where you will likely stay.... stuck. On the other hand if your partner is uncomfortably trying to communicate their feelings and really trying to make changes that alone equals progression and possibility. Relationships, yes they are work. Relationships should not equal you sacrificing your own happiness in order to make someone else happy. #lifelessons